Signs of Self Confidence versus Low Self Confidence

General signs of self confidence  

• Being willing to take risks and stretch beyond your comfort zone         
• Standing up for your rights without stamping on the rights of others (being assertive)
• Admitting your mistakes and ensuring you have learnt lessons from them
• Doing things your way when you believe it to be right even if others disagree or criticize 
• Accepting compliments graciously   

General signs of low self confidence

• Confining yourself to your comfort zone for fear of failure   
• Allowing other people to ‘lead’ your thinking instead of expressing your thoughts    
• Covering up mistakes in the hope that you can fix the issue and no one notices    
• Consistently doing what others expect or ask without voicing your own opinions    
• Dismissing compliments as if they were not necessary    

Whilst these may appear to be generalisations having worked with many different personality types quite often I have observed a mix of the two categories even in the most confident of individuals. It is, however, worthwhile knowing these signs and watching yourself. It helps to identify the feelings, thoughts and self doubt that are triggered based on environment, people and/or conversations.

Go Confidently, from the Confidence Coalition

Go Confidently! from Confidence Coalition on Vimeo.

An Inspirational Thought...

Close your eyes

Welcome the dark canvas before you

Then begin to picture your biggest dream

Don't let it scare you, just enjoy the moment

Freeze frame on your favourite image

Then breathe life into it with three deep breaths

Giving the image energy and life potential

Smile and say 'yes I can'

Open your eyes, take in your surroundings

Then rise up in action, ready to bring the dream to life

You see, no matter who you are or what you desire the same steps apply. YOU have the power to generate your life changes, YOU have the power to produce the thoughts that make it possible and YOU have the power to take action.

Confidence is the act of putting faith in your power to do great things...

What is confidence?

Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself.

Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.

So says Wikipedia... Is it true that success comes only to those with confidence?

I believe it has a major part to play and yet so many people believe that if they haven't got it 'naturally' they'll never have it.

Good news: it is not elusive! We can ALL tap into it and achieve the level of success we desire at the same time. Yes, it takes some work on the inner voices and our belief systems but with guidance, support and real desire it is yours for the taking...

This blog is dedicated to confidence building, communication skills, personal effectiveness and assertiveness - look forward to chatting with you!