Confidence through Modelling

Building self confidence is not an overnight experience but by taking a small step each day you can move towards being your full self.

A great way to do this is to find a role model. Here are some steps to go through:

• Who do you watch or see and believe them to be confident? Identify one person initially
• How does their confidence show - what are they doing, saying, wearing? 
• Look at their body language - gestures, appearance, facial expressions, tone of voice, vocabulary 

Now imagine them being the person in the situations where you feel least confident:

• How would they handle them?
• What kind of conversatyions do they strike up?
• How do they interact with other people?
• What reaction do they get from other people?

Write down your answers for each of the above questions. This provides you with a 'model' of what confidence looks like to you. Add any other descriptions that come to mind and keep referring to the list.

Now you have a template to work from to grow your own self confidence. It is not about 'copying' or trying to be like someone else. It is about you identifying and making real your interpretation of confidence in a visual form and that gives you a start on your journey!