Confidence through Modelling

Building self confidence is not an overnight experience but by taking a small step each day you can move towards being your full self.

A great way to do this is to find a role model. Here are some steps to go through:

• Who do you watch or see and believe them to be confident? Identify one person initially
• How does their confidence show - what are they doing, saying, wearing? 
• Look at their body language - gestures, appearance, facial expressions, tone of voice, vocabulary 

Now imagine them being the person in the situations where you feel least confident:

• How would they handle them?
• What kind of conversatyions do they strike up?
• How do they interact with other people?
• What reaction do they get from other people?

Write down your answers for each of the above questions. This provides you with a 'model' of what confidence looks like to you. Add any other descriptions that come to mind and keep referring to the list.

Now you have a template to work from to grow your own self confidence. It is not about 'copying' or trying to be like someone else. It is about you identifying and making real your interpretation of confidence in a visual form and that gives you a start on your journey!

Be Confident

Let's

Communicate our thoughts

Openly and not be put off when we hear

No. It is but a 2 letter word that too often we allow to hurt our

Feelings and yet if our

Intentions and

Desires are to be realised we must press forward with 

Enthusiasm and our self Esteem in tact. Then our

Natural authentic selves will become

Confident and our 

Excellence will shine on through...

Exude the CONFIDENCE that is within you...

At the Start of a Journey...

Whatever the journey, whatever the need, we must start from where we are now - in this moment.

Assessing ourselves, our life and the relationships we have allows us to gain clarity about what is working versus what is not, what can stay versus what can go and inevitably the gaps between the here & now and where we want to be.

A little thing called life/work balance...

The expression was first used in the late 1970s to describe the balance between an individual's work and personal life (Wikipedia)

It is a subject often talked about and there are plenty of 'how to get it' thoughts and tips available for reading. The truth remains that one persons idea of work life balance is another persons nightmare!

Certainly for me the balance is not about having equal time for both work and personal, it is about making time for all the areas of my life that are important to me.

And that's why I have found the Wheel of Life to be such a powerful tool to use with clients and with myself. By selecting the areas of our life that we wish to focus on 'balancing', the wheel provides us with a visual of where we are now. By duplicating the line drawing process based on where we would like to be the gaps become evident and we end up with a true representation of how we are managing our lives.

There is a great Wheel of Life exercise you can use here. The wheel will take you 5-10 minutes to complete and if you go on to finish the whole workshop (takes you deeper into analyzing the areas of your life) expect to spend 30-45 minutes.. And may I suggest time well spent at the beginning of a journey...

FEAR

Fear is the one thing that can stop us from achieving, from believing, from aspiring... this one 4 letter word. 

And yet it is:

False

Expectations

Appearing

Real

In a few of my recent training sessions I have spoken with a number of women who 'stay within their comfort zone', quite often because they have preconceived ideas about how other people will react if they should suddenly do things differently. This is just one area of 'fear' - other peoples expectations.

This 'passive' inclination to even consider living by standards others expect is worrying. We are all unique, we are all gifted individuals and we all have rights. Without stretching the boundaries of our comfort zones how can we truly know who we are and what we are capable of?

So to all you wonderful women out there, stand up and be counted, let your voice be heard and when you feel fearful... just do it anyway! Four letters versus you = no competition!